Flirting With Men - How To Do It

Flirting With Men - How To Do It - Sometimes, the best opportunity to be better at attracting men is lying right under our noses. Everyday, life is full of little chances that will help us become more of a 'people person', which of course leads to GREATER irresponsibility!

Even the most mundane of situations present a way for you to become better at conversing with folks of all shapes and sizes (along with quality men!). Starting today, all you need to do is keep an eye out for chances to develop your conversational skills and self-confidence in general.

Understandably, women who haven't developed the habit of getting there and mingling with other people won't be used to kicking off a great conversation. In other words, the thought of chatting with strangers is unappealing to these girls ' or even downright SCARY.

All it really takes are the right ideas which will help enforce the habit of chatting up all sorts of folks. So for today, THIS is exactly what we're going discover.

Of course, if you would like the shortcut to your seduction success, you can check out Meet Your Sweet's 'Get a Guy Guide:'

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Now, I'd like to familiarize you with the most basic aspects of being a friendlier, more approachable version of yourself in order to make men (and other folks in general) naturally responsive to you.

This is where the importance of FLIRTING comes in.

You might think that flirting is about making raunchy innuendo. Perhaps your idea of being a good flirt has to do with lacing your conversation with sexual implications and the like.

Well, this is actually just a misconception that's given the fine art of flirting a bad rap these days. The funny truth is that you can flirt with just about any stranger out there, whether he's a guy OR a girl!

Before you get all confused with my last statement, let me clear up what flirting is all about. It's the ability to elicit GOOD FEELINGS within a person, regardless of gender.

Basically, the point of flirting is a basic desire to spread feel-good vibes among the people that you meet WITHOUT wanting anything in return (like a date or romantic attention!).

Although your intentions for flirting are to simply have fun with everyone, the ironic twist is that you'll also happen to attract guys in the process!

When you come across as a lady who has a natural tendency to make EVERYONE around her FEEL GREAT, then that's what good flirting is all about!

If you're able to associate your presence with positive emotions, it would make sense for people to want to be around you. With that said, how does a girl go about working on her flirtation skills?

 

#1: Pay them a compliment

Before you start handing out words of praise like they were going out of style tomorrow, you need to have a CLEAR idea of what this is all about.

Like what I said about sincerity earlier, you want to make people feel good about themselves with no ulterior motive. Anyone would be turned off by someone who was obviously just sucking up to him or her.

It's easy to feel this way if the person got a whiff of phoniness from a compliment. For instance, people can tell if you're firing off a flattering remark with NO THOUGHT at all'

'whereas EARNESTLY observing something important to the person and praising it accordingly will deeply resonate within him or her!

Although this seems like a doozy to pull off, it's actually not as hard as it sounds. A smart girl like you just needs to put her powers of observation to good use!

As I mentioned at the start of this newsletter, all you have to do is look out for things 'hidden' in plain sight. Greater AWARENESS is vital in situations like these, so keep your eyes peeled for things to compliment people on!

The next time you run into someone with whom you can talk to for a bit, try your hand at making him/her feel good with some well-placed words of praise.

Don't feel like they have to like you because of it, what's important is that you simply felt like saying something nice for the heck of it. No more, no less!

For instance, if that new guy sitting next to your cubicle at work has a cool screensaver from the movie 'Avatar' on his monitor, make a brief but meaningful comment if the situation allows it.

Saying something like 'Hey, that's a sweet screensaver ' I guess you like the movie even more than I did!'

This is a great way to establish some RAPPORT and VALIDATE his personal interests.

Pretty soon, you might be adding more fuel to the fire by saying 'I love how the film gave the expression 'walking in someone else's shoes' a new meaning!'

And who knows, it may serve as a starting point for a longer conversation! In this example, all you wanted to do was to take notice of something you HONESTLY liked and gave him props for it.

Sometimes, taking the initiative to pay a sincere compliment goes a long way!

 

#2: Keep it light, keep it fun!

Now that we've established that flirting is meant to make others feel good, you also need to know about another important guideline. You can't generate those things within someone if you don't feel good about yourself to begin with!

Anyone with an infectiously pleasant personality knows that having that a positive attitude begets the same vibe from the people around them. That's why you need to be 'in the zone' when you're mingling with the folks you run into.

You have to remember that your level of energy must be just as high (if not higher) than the person you're talking to. Otherwise, your flirting efforts will be a lost cause.

But that doesn't mean you have to transform into a hyperactive version of yourself ' you just have to go by a few important pointers to make sure that you're always in top form!

For instance, thinking too much is one of the biggest positive attitude-killers that will keep you from being at your most flirtatious. Some women have a tendency to let the inner chatter in their heads DISTRACT them.

I'm sure anyone at some point in their social lives has made the mistake of trying TOO HARD to sound witty or clever. The end result of this habit is that you end up thinking of what to say next without bothering to LISTEN to the person in front of you.

Why pressure yourself and act like your life depended on it? It doesn't work that way!

This line of thinking defeats the very purpose of flirting, which is to establish rapport by being playful, relaxed and fun-loving. Driving yourself mad with thoughts like 'I hope this guy likes me' will only keep you from giving him your full attention (which is a very ATTRACTIVE thing to do!).

So do yourself a favor and just keep your ears peeled to the conversation. That's the best way to keep the fun going!

Let me give you an example. Pretend that the guy you're talking to just told you about a great experience he had camping out with his buddies by the lake over the weekend.

Maybe he mentioned that he got a kick out of momentarily leaving his hectic city life behind and relaxing in the wilderness. Paying ATTENTION to a key point such as this would then allow you to share some of your own thoughts to complement his.

Then you can say something in a similar train of thought: 'Wow, that sounds like a lot of fun! You know, sometimes I need a little peace and quiet myself when the week gets crazy'so every now and then I do my own thing by chilling out at home, turn up my Zen music and curl up with a good book!'

Bingo! Not only did you indirectly praise his interests, you've also created some excellent common ground between you two!

And you weren't even trying to impress him by topping his story; all you really did was to take something he finds important and give it right back at him!

To recap: DON'T psych yourself out by thinking that a failed attempt at flirting is going to be the death of you!

Relax into the moment and keep a cool head about yourself. What should a sassy girl like you be afraid of anyway?

Flirting is a playful way of testing the waters with a guy. A lighthearted verbal exchange is meant to let you know if your personalities are going to mesh well.

If not, it's certainly NOT any great loss on your part so there's nothing to be freaked out about!

As far as the big picture is concerned, taking these little hiccups in stride by staying POSITIVE is actually an attractive trait to have. More importantly, the motivation for flirting is to simply share your joy for living with others!

And that's a lot easier to do than wanting people to like you. Go for an impression that tells people, 'I'm having FUN talking with you' instead of something off-putting like 'Won't you please like me?'

If you want to keep the things fun, DON'T let your mind wander into thoughts about the OUTCOME of your conversation.

What happens AFTER the conversation is irrelevant. The important thing is that you're living IN THE MOMENT, totally focused on the person you're chatting with.

Did he laugh at your jokes? Great! Did he give you the cold shoulder? Great!

See, it doesn't matter because this doesn't have any bearing on who you are as a woman. The great thing about these experiences is that you LEARN from your accomplishments (or mistakes) every time!

So the next time you head out of the house, don't forget to ditch the negative self-talk and leave your unreasonably harsh inner critic at the door!

The general idea is to open up to the rest of humanity out there and welcome the chances that come your way.

The broad spectrum of your cheerful personality is going affect everyone around you: your family, friends, colleagues'and of course, the potential Mr. Right's waiting to meet you!

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Flirting With Men - How To Do It

Conversation Tips - How to Talk To Men

How to talk to Men

How to talk to men - Everybody has sticking points, whether it's work, relationships or life in general. But that's fine and dandy because the learning process is what makes us better women.

Perhaps you're struggling with certain behaviors or fears that might be keeping you from making the most out of your love life. Not to worry though; author Mirabelle Summers has created the ultimate game-free guide on how to do just THAT:

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The "Get A Great Guy Guide" is just the thing you need to achieve the breakthrough that you've been waiting for. With its sensible, no-nonsense and down-to-earth advice for the sassy, modern girl, finding AND holding on to a quality man will be a cinch!

Now then - one of the most common stumbling blocks to more romance in a woman's life is a simple lack of conversational know-now. The good news is that this can be LEARNED and immediately applied in your everyday life!

Especially while you're face-to-face with a potential lover!

Oftentimes the problem is that some well-meaning girls overlook the importance of having the right communication style. It's not that they WANT to be boring; they're merely unaware of how to hold a conversation.

No sensible gal is going to get up in the morning and tell herself, "I wonder how I'm gonna BORE the socks off of that cute stranger I'm going run into at the coffee shop today?"

If you want to become a better conversationalist, it's important to consider if you've grown accustomed to certain patterns of speech that are actually counterproductive. Sometimes, you need to step back and ask if you've fallen into certain habits which you've numbed yourself to over time.

So the first step towards any form of improvement is SELF-AWARENESS. Think about the way you normally carry a conversation with a guy and ask yourself if your style could use some polishing.

Of course, I don't want you to start beating yourself up if you feel that the way you talk to men isn't as attractive as you might want it to be. Like I said earlier, there's always room for improvement, and it's definitely a good thing to know EXACTLY which areas can be improved.

With that said, I want you to go over the following tip you can use to enhance your communication style:

 

# 1: Rapport is Key

It may sound like the simplest thing in the world to say, but the fact is lots of perfectly adorable women have a hard time doing this.
It's mainly because they only have a VAGUE idea of what rapport is, so naturally you can't create something you can't really put a pin on!

So let's clear up the fog surrounding this topic and identify what it is exactly. In a nutshell, having rapport is about having a CONNECTION with someone.

You know how you hook up your iPod or mobile phone to your computer, and they suddenly have this mutual understanding? It's kind of like that, but on a DEEPER level.

Let me give you a clearer picture: if you were at a party packed with all manner of gorgeous, articulate and friendly men, which one of them are you likely to REALLY fall for?

Since they're all visually and mentally appealing, you might have a hard time figuring out which guy suits you. Chances are the one who naturally understands you will be the man you'd want to date.

Why is that? Well, doesn't it feel just GREAT when a person instinctively senses where you're coming from?

I'm sure you've met at least one person in your life who you inexplicably feel drawn to. That's because that person seems to perfectly understand and echo back your own opinions or feelings.

That sense of being connected is what rapport is all about. Fortunately, it's actually not hard at all to do this in your daily conversations.

The first thing to keep in mind is that you need to be on the 'same page' as the person you're talking to. There are easy ways to do this.

For example, keep an ear out for specific concepts or values that are personally close to the person you're in a conversation with. If he brings up that it's important to him to have some quiet time everyday, store that away for future reference.

Later on you can echo back that same concept by telling him about how YOU like to spend your alone time: 'At the end of the day I like to spend an hour or so curling up with a good book and a nice warm cup of chamomile tea. It really helps decompress after a crazy day, you know what I mean?'

Step back and watch his eyes light up like a Christmas tree! By taking something close to his heart and giving it back to him in a genuine way, your words will make quite the IMPACT on him.

So, rapport really has to do a lot with speaking the same 'language'. Now of course, I don't mean you have to start mimicking everything he's saying like a little parrot, but rather do it in an EMOTIONAL sense.

Discovering and talking about the values that resonate with you BOTH is a way to speak the same language.
When you think about it, we often adapt our modes of speech depending on the context we're in.

For example, you wouldn't talk to your friends, family, colleagues, or elders in the same EXACT way would you?

So don't think that you're being a phony by making an effort to speak in the same way that he does. You're simply getting into the practice of communicating in a way that's APPROPRIATE to the situation.

And when it comes to chatting up gorgeous guys, a meeting of the minds is best done through rapport-building speech patterns!

 

# 2: Switch Off Your Brain

Don't get me wrong, the kinds of guys who are worth your time are into women of SUBSTANCE. And certainly, this next conversational tip is not about acting air-headed or ditzy.

All I'm advising you do is keep your sexy brain from going into overdrive! A common mistake that intelligent women often commit is to think too much about certain things.

They get so caught up in their own world of thoughts that they'll come off as aloof or distracted, when in reality they're just petrified from FEAR of not knowing what to say next.

If you don't want your brain from stalling on you, then you have to quiet your thoughts and shut out the nagging distractions in your pretty little noggin.

The attraction-killing thoughts I'm talking about are those coming from the inner critic trying to sabotage your conversation. Sometimes, we make the mistake of mentally scolding ourselves after saying something that felt out of place or unfunny.

Other times, we're lost in a maze of thoughts on what to say next or get bogged down in a swamp of self-consciousness.

When you feel your brain going in this direction, acknowledge what's going on and DROP these mental distractions.

There's a handy little trick you can do in case your attention is drifting off to la-la land: instead of obsessing about how you look in his eyes or what he might be thinking, simply divert your attention to HIM.

It's a girl's best defense against looking aloof or detached from the conversation (or from this plane of reality for that matter!). So remember to shut off this part of your brain, and you'll do just fine.

On another note however, sometimes it's the guy you're talking to that's feeling self-conscious. If that's the case, then don't act or talk in any way that might give away you're AWARE of it.

Just play it cool and don't dwell on the vibe he's giving off. It'll only make things more awkward if you let his state affect your own.

 

# 3: Humor is Your Best Friend

Maybe you're still feeling each other out and you're trying to get a handle on how to connect to this hunk of a guy. But the awkward flow of your conversation is creating a major interference in your connection so you're having a hard time 'broadcasting' your signal.

Fear not, friend! The quickest way to clear up all that 'static' is by creating a private joke which you can share with him. When you both have some knee-slapping ground to start on, this accelerates the rapport-building process.

My long-time friend Marcus has a great story to illustrate my point. He says:

"One of my first jobs was a freelance product writer for all sorts of health merchandise. During one assignment I was talking with this guy who was telling me about the benefits of a sports bracelet that supposedly reduces muscular fatigue. I had to put on the bracelet and pretended how less tense my arm felt as I was stretching it. Monique, his pretty sales assistant, was visibly chuckling at how funny I looked during the product demo (though she tried her best to hide it)."

Marcus was then able to use this funny incident as an inside joke when he started chatting up Monqiue. To her delight, he referred to the silly arm-stretching debacle several times during their conversation.

To his benefit, Monique was game enough to tease him about it when they eventually started dating. The moral of the story here is that when used properly, humor serves as a great bridge between two people.

Heck, any doctor knows about the therapeutic effect of laughter. One way to bring on the charm is to put your man on a natural high by cracking a joke or making a witty comment!

Making people laugh will make people (cute guys included) want to be around you to get a dose of your feel-good charisma.

Of course, there's a big difference between laughing at a joke and MAKING one. However, appearing to be effortless at humor isn't as hard as you might think.

Don't assume you need to transform yourself into a standup comic at the drop of a hat.

Generally, a good punch line is the result of properly setting up the joke beforehand. If you need to explain the punch line after delivering it, it means you didn't build enough suspense first.

(Think about how some characters on TV bumble a perfectly good joke by explaining too much and adding a "get it, get it?" at the end.)

A good way to build up a joke is by keeping a relatively straight face and suppressing any snickers before dropping the punch line on him. Otherwise there won't be any escalation.

That's what comedic timing is all about: buttering up the audience and then BAM, you get the drop on them with a well-placed punch line!

Notice how comedians like Conan O'Brien or Tina Fey churn out the funnies. They like to talk about a mundane news item (the set-up) and then making a zany comment about it (the payoff).

As an aside, avoid making any pop culture references that might alienate or confuse the person you're talking to. It's good to be mindful of the particular person in front of you so he can better relate to your "material".

However, don't worry about making leaps and bounds in this particular area of conversation. Try adapting these habits of humor little by little into your speech.

Once you hit your stride and finally struck a guy's funny bone, you'll notice how easier it is to keep him laughing with a follow-up joke!

One last way to be funny without overdoing it is by doing the "pretend seriousness" routine. A little lighthearted irony goes a long way with certain folks!

Let's pretend that your friend introduced you to this incredibly cute guy who happens to be just into music as you are. So halfway through the conversation he confesses to not having heard about a certain band you absolutely adore.

Take advantage of this opportunity by *playfully* retorting, "Tell me you're kidding. Otherwise, I'm gonna have to drag you to my place and make you listen to my (name of band) records until you see the light. Seriously!"

Admittedly, this approach might not work on everyone, but if he seems like the guy who's game enough to go along with the fun, then give it a shot!

 

#4: Converse With an OPEN Ear

Some women might think that listening is just a simple matter of hearing what the other person is telling them. Truth is, this basic skill we've been taught to use over the years is often taken for granted.

Sometimes, we find ourselves zoning out a bit (refer to tip # 2) when we should be PAY ATTENTION in the full sense of the verb. A typical mistake is to listen on a superficial level and merely use the time the guy is talking to think of something to say.

This might sound like common sense, but I have this to share: you'd have a better chance of saying something worthwhile if you truly listened to what the other person just said.

I've told countless friends and colleagues that your genuine attention is a very powerful tool for conversational success! Really listening to his jokes and stories is a simple but effective way to make him feel good about himself.

And what red-blooded man wouldn't want to be around a sassy girl that he can associate his GOOD FEELINGS with?

The gift of showing real interest is the direct path to greater rapport in ANY sort of conversation you're in. Although our general interest here is to attract men through a good chat, we also have to consider the big picture here.

An attractive woman is someone who can have a great conversation with just about anybody. When you have a POSITIVE attitude towards the rest of humankind, it's an indication of how you'd be on a date.

...or as a girlfriend.

If you're there to talk with ANYONE purely for the pleasure of their company... and NOT because you want their approval... then that sincerity will naturally show.

People (hunks included) just tend you like more when you want to hang out with them with NO strings attached.

So what I'm saying here is that you shouldn't just limit your awesome conversational skills to men alone. Find an opportunity to flex your social muscles and chat up a storm with the next person you run into!

It doesn't matter if it's the nice old lady at the library, the friendly cashier at your favorite coffee place, or your fellow students at yoga class. Every person out there offers a chance for you to become a more sociable person.

Trust me, this mindset is the sure-fire path to becoming drop-dead gorgeous in the long run! What have you got to lose after all?

And part of developing the right mindset is by expanding your knowledge and beliefs about dating, courtesy of Meet Your Sweet's "Get a Great Guy Guide."

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When you think about it, the cost of failure is pretty much ZERO, so get out there and work it!

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If you want genuine men, and not just any man, let Mirabelle Summers and the team challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.

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How to talk to men

How To Keep Him Interested In You Forever

How To Keep Him Interested In You Forever

By Slade Shaw
Author of Why Men Pull Away  

How To Keep Him Interested In You Forever - “I once had a thousand desires. But in my one desire to know you, all else melted away.”

- Rumi

Rita, a massage therapist from San Diego, was fresh from a breakup when she met Henry.

Her ex walked out on her without warning after five whole years of being together. So, she was keen on starting over with her new guy.

She’d only been seeing Henry for a couple of months, but she knew he was different from the guys she’d been seeing during the short time she became single.

Several dates later, everything was going great…

…until, well, they weren’t.

Henry was super affectionate and constantly updating Rita with what he was up to. If he wasn’t sending funny messages throughout the day, he’d fire off a quirky picture with a silly caption.

But then the communication slowed down to the point Rita had to text him a few times before he’d send a half-hearted reply. She practically had to beg him to make plans before they could go out again.

Henry’s behavior left Rita scratching her head in confusion. What made matters worse that her old fears of being left hanging in the air started to bubble to the surface.

She thought to herself, “Who is this guy texting me lukewarm ‘ok’s…and what has he done with the real Henry?”

 

How to Keep That Spark Burning

 

It’s pretty ironic that someone who has a job like Rita’s would have a hard time keeping a guy’s interest, isn’t it?

Ok, kidding aside, there are some things a woman can do to make sure her guy doesn’t ever get bored or think about leaving.

And most women think that he needs to feel a certain way all the time, like being head over heels IN LOVE 24/7.

But the truth is that romantic love ebbs and flows over time. Emotions (and people) evolve in a relationship, and it’s not about constantly being in a lovestruck state for years and years.

Those rose-colored glasses will come off at one point, and a deeper, more mature kind love will blossom in your relationship.

You can help that natural process move along if you give him the signs that you’re a solid partner.

And that starts with creating a stable, grounded relationship that can get through the roughest patches and stay generally positive throughout.

If this climate exists between you two, he’ll stick around no matter how long (or short) you’ve been together.

You just need to cultivate the right habits to make this happen:

 

#1: Make him work for it

 

You see, the hottest relationships are all about push and pull. This is a dynamic where a person pushes their partner into making them feel attractive, desired and the most amazing person they’ve met.

Then the person doing the pushing withdraws a bit – or pulls away - so that they reverse roles with their partner. This way, the hunter becomes the hunted.

Lather, rinse, repeat.

Sometimes, you might push too hard that your guy feels smothered. Or he might give up and lose interest if you play “hard to get” too much.

So, it’s a rather delicate balance to achieve. But when it’s done right, it’s tons of FUN.

Here are a few ways to create this dynamic:

• Don’t be available ALL the time. Keep your schedule balanced and keep doing all the stuff that keeps you happy, fulfilled, refreshed and revitalized.

 

• Have a hobby or passion that doesn’t necessarily pay the bills, but makes you, YOU. Men are interested in a woman who makes it a point to be interesting. This works great because it gives you an additional sense of purpose while effortlessly impressing your guy in the process.

 

• Let your guy DO his own stuff, too. If he says he’s going fishing with the boys or anything else that involves hanging out with them, LET HIM. This sounds like common sense…that is, until the neediness monster takes over. Don’t drop by with a pizza to “see how he’s doing”, or bombard him with a bunch of texts asking him to check in with you. All guys in a relationship need to feel free – within a reasonable level, of course.

 

• Introduce a little tension. Tease him a bit and be playful. Bust his chops every now and then and give him a hard time like his pals do. In some ways, he’s still that kid at the playground trying to catch a girl’s attention by poking fun at her and launching spitballs or whatever. So flirting with him flips the script, keeps him on his toes and hot on your trail.

 

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#2: Be his number one fan

 

If you want your man to stay in the game, take the initiative by setting the bar.

Show him the same behavior you’d like to see from him. Having his back is a good way to do that.

A guy needs to know that you appreciate and cherish who he is now, and who he’s capable of being in the future. This makes him feel accepted and secure in the knowledge that you’re rooting for him.

That means he doesn’t have to hold back some part of himself because he has no reason to. He knows he can be himself, including being vulnerable around you.

And when he can let his guard down with you, it’s a huge sign of TRUST, which is the building block of any successful relationship.

 

#3: Build those inner roads

 

A guy is more likely to stay when his woman knows how to make him feel connected to her.

You can do this by having a good layout of his world. There are a lot of things that occupy his thoughts and make up who he is.

So the more you’re aware of this, the more he’ll know that you care about him as a WHOLE.

Sad to say, but a lot of men bail because they feel their partner is more concerned about filling THAT role in her life, rather than seeing them as a person.

That said, try to familiarize yourself with the following:

• Who’s the biggest person giving him a hard time at work?
• Who are his closest friends?
• Who were his heroes growing up?
• What’s the one thing keeping him up at night?
• What’s his greatest fear?
• What are the things he hasn’t accomplished yet, and would like to do in the next five years?
• If money wasn’t a thing, what would be the perfect job for him?

 

#4: Make it OK for him to disagree with you

 

Oftentimes a guy is afraid that he can’t be honest about his thoughts or opinions with his girl.

He’s worried she’s going to freak out or get into a screaming argument about it.

(Most of the time, in that order.)

Worse, a lot of men have been burned by past partners who tell them it’s ok to be honest…but proceed with said behavior.

To a guy, that’s like asking him to walk through a door…

…with Jason from Friday the 13th waiting with a chainsaw on the other side.

Admittedly, it takes a certain level of maturity to get to a place where you can accept your differences without attacking each other.

And to be perfectly honest, guys are also guilty of this one, too. But to them though, this is a particularly sore spot.

So, if you’re able to handle his opinions and not fly off the handle, he’ll feel more safe around you.

 

#5: Tune into his needs

 

“Well, wait a minute,” you might say. “What about MY needs? Do you expect me to live to please him? Isn’t that one-sided??”

Listen, I get you. No one in their right mind would expect to do ALL the work while the other person sits back and eats their proverbial cake.

If he’s self-centered and makes the relationship all about him, you shouldn’t waste your time on that kind of man. Fair enough, right?

But if you’re with a swell guy (and I’m guessing that he is), your happiness is on his priority list. It’s in every decent guy’s DNA to make sure of that.

And going back to what I said before about setting the bar, a man also loves a woman who can meet him halfway on this.

So build on the habit of getting to know him better, then use that knowledge to give him what he needs.

When you have a good grasp of what he likes and doesn’t like, it’s easy to do little things that make him feel special and valued.

Stuff like his favorite movies, top food choices, interests and hobbies will give you a good idea of the things you can do for him.

The more personalized your acts of kindness are, the bigger effect they’ll have on your man.

Discover Why Men Pull Away - and make sure he'll NEVER leave you... 

 

#6: Don’t neglect yourself 

 

I said earlier that you shouldn’t let your passions, social life and career slide because they make you the woman he loves.

And the other side of that coin is taking care of yourself on a more basic level - mainly your looks and well-being.

Now, I’m not saying he shouldn’t do the same…

…I just mean that you should do your part no matter what.

Again, it’s on him if he’s not meeting you halfway.

But here’s the thing: men are NOT after perfection or supermodel-like features in a long-term partner. Deep inside, they know that only gets your foot in the door.

In the bigger scheme of things, he just wants to know you’re making the EFFORT.

That’s it.

He just needs to know you care about looking good around him, and caring about yourself in general.

So, that means being on top of the big three: Fitness, Health and Fashion.

Look at it this way - you’re going to have to do this whether you’re single or in a relationship.

So it’s better to be up to scratch on this stuff - and get a serious partner out of it in the process!

 

#7: Keep him busy in the bedroom

 

Of course I’m going to talk about this. I might sound a little harsh about this, but the sexual component is a non-negotiable in your relationship.

Otherwise, you might end up with a good friend instead of a romantic partner.

So, make him feel like he’s the hottest guy you’ve met.

He knows full well he’s no Brad Pitt (but good on you if he does look like him), but it still matters to him that you DESIRE him that way.

Men want to be WANTED, just like you do. And when you only have eyes for each other – he won’t look elsewhere.     

For starters, don’t be afraid to get tactile with him even when you’re not doing the deed. Hold his hand in public, touch his arm often and give him a kiss before parting ways.

As for the main event, communicate your desires to him when you’re in the heat of the moment.

Tell him when he’s doing it right, get a bit vocal and compliment him on his masculinity.

As far as the bigger picture’s concerned, guys aren’t after the perfect partner or relationship.

They’re more interested in someone who’s just as on board as they are – and more importantly, reassures them that they’re committing to the RIGHT girl.

Once your guy knows he’s making the right choice by being with you, you won’t have to worry about where you stand with him.

But if you’re doing everything possible to keep your man interested and it STILL seems like he’s slipping away, you shouldn’t blame yourself.

Every guy is different, and he has his reasons for withdrawing that have nothing to do with you.

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8 Differences Between True Love and Fake Love

8 Differences Between True Love and Fake Love

By Slade Shaw
Author of Why Men Pull Away 

8 Differences Between True Love and Fake Love

“If you love someone but rarely make yourself available to him or her, that is not true love.”

-Thich Nhat Hanh

Guys don’t always say what they mean, whether it’s unintentional or not.

Sometimes, it’s a case of miscommunication where a man has trouble expressing himself, and you get the wrong message.

For instance, he could be fresh out of a relationship and didn’t know what he was getting into when started going out with you.

He might have thought at first that he was ready to commit, but somewhere down the line he realized that he couldn’t give you what you wanted.

And as he’s working out his feelings, he’ll give you what’s usually known as “mixed signals”.

Then there are times when he knows exactly what he wants, and will do anything to get it…

…even if it means lying to your face.

He’ll charm you into bed, then split the scene once he’s gotten what he wanted.

Either way, it’s NOT the kind of love you’re after.

So how do you know if he’s not feeling “all that” about being with you, whatever reason it may be?

And how do you spot signs of true love so you don’t waste your time on the WRONG guy?

Personally, I don’t believe in any of that mixed signals business. No matter what he says, it’s always his actions and behavior that tell the real story.

Witt that, here are the 8 biggest signs to help you know whether he feels a deep, heartfelt love for you…

…or he’s just taking you for a ride.

Bear in mind that you can spot these telltale clues in any guy, regardless of how long you’ve known him. These traits manifest on a deeper level for long-term relationships, and you’ll see early indications for a newer guy.

At any rate, you’d best find out as soon as possible – here we go…

 

Sign of True Love #1: You’re connected to him

 

You might hear some couples talking about the strong connection they have. They seem to know what the other is thinking, or even finish each other’s sentences.

It’s borderline psychic, and they swear there’s something supernatural going on.

But the real reason couples like them are so in tune is because they pay attention to each other.

There’s nothing complicated about it – they basically cultivate the habit of responding when one of them is trying to make a connection.

For example, you might say to your partner while you’re walking down the street, “Hey honey, check out that Prius with the Hello Kitty decals…I can’t decide if it’s cute or trashy!”

If he just ignores you or shrugs with an apathetic, “Hmm”, then the connection between you might not be as strong as you think.

But if he says something like, “Yeah, definitely trashy… that car’s perfect for you!” with a cheeky grin, then it means he’s really paying attention to you.

And it’s not just about pointing out something interesting to your partner. It can be more subtle, like bringing up a story and seeing how the other reacts, getting a quick opinion on your outfit, or asking for help with the laundry.

These are “small” ways couples try to connect with each other, and it takes practice for couples to get into this groove. You’ll see those who’ve been together for some time are naturally good at this.

On the other hand, a superficial kind of love doesn’t make the effort to make these little connections.

If a guy continuously brushes off your attempts to connect (and not because he just happens to be having a bad day), then he might not be that into the relationship as you think.

Sign of True Love #2: It’s all about clarity

 

When a guy isn’t really in love, it’s not really important to him whether he’s sending a clear message or not.

What do I mean by this?

Well for starters, he has the habit of letting you know at the last minute if he can’t make it or he’s running late.

And when you’re not together, it usually feels like he’s gone off the grid.

You don’t hear from him for long stretches of time, and he won’t bother to let you know what’s going on with him.

Even if he seems like the most charming, fun and sweet guy when you are together - especially in bed…

…he probably isn’t that committed if his actions outside of that are ambiguous.

True love is the opposite of that, which means he’ll leave no room for you to wonder if he’s going to flake out on you or not.

He’s going to make sure that the way he communicates with you is absolutely clear and “on the level”.

 

True Love Sign #3: He actually cares about being TOGETHER

 

With a relationship purely based on lust, there’s little to no effort involved when it comes to doing things that bring a couple closer.

There’s that “I’ll see you when I see you” kind of vibe, and you don’t feel any sort of GROWTH between you.

A man who’s in love is going to make sure he gets to spend time with you, even if he has to rearrange his whole schedule.

And it’s a sure sign he’s super serious if these are ritual type of activities, and not just getting busy between the sheets.

When a guy’s creating shared experiences, he’s also interested in forming a richer, DEEPER connection with you.

It’s not always about going on a weekend getaway or bungee jumping…

…but rather smaller things like huddling together for a weekend Netflix marathon or a Wednesday brunch.

Real love isn’t always focused on chasing the “high” that comes with romance, but also creating a stable routine that forms the foundation of your relationship.

 

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True Love Sign #4: He’s not afraid to push your limits

 

Couples who truly care for each other aren’t worried about being likeable or agreeable all the time.

If they have a difference of opinion, they can handle the fact that they don’t see eye-to-eye on it - especially when it comes to “dealbreaker” kind of topics.

More importantly, they can give their HONEST thoughts on the matter, even if it’s the polar opposite of what the other person believes.

Someone who’s more interested in a one-shot kind of deal (rather than being in it for the long run) isn’t going to risk rocking the boat.

He’ll be in politician mode, saying and doing everything to keep the good times rolling.

He’s thinking, “What’s the point of being honest about it if it’s going to piss her off?”

But a man in love isn’t as worried about the ups and downs, or the disagreements…

…because he’s more interested in knowing the REAL you…

…even if it means having to iron out the kinks.

He knows it’s a messy process, but he doesn’t mind.

Amanda, a friend of mine was telling me about her husband, Donnie:

“You know, at first I thought he was kind of a jerk for being so straight up with me. But he always respected me even though we disagreed on something.”

Then she added, “And if I messed up in some way, he called me out on it without making me feel bad. I’d get mad at Donnie before, but now I respect him for not just telling me what I wanted to hear, but what I needed to.”

 

True Love Sign #5: He meets you halfway…or MORE than that

 

We all know relationships are about give and take, but a guy in love is way more interested in GIVING than taking.

And when he gives, you’re 100% sure there’s no strings attached. He does it because he wants to, and it doesn’t matter how much he gets back in return.

Real love doesn’t keep score, so your guy isn’t going to bring up the time he waited half an hour because you had a last-minute emergency at work, or that he had to cancel poker night with the guys to see you.

Superficial relationships usually have self-serving agendas (i.e. sex, money, bragging rights).

When a guy is more concerned about having the favor returned, you’ll feel it …

…even if he doesn’t say something like, “I did this for you, now what are you going to do for me?”

Furthermore, a guy who isn’t really in love tends to be more selfish about his preferences.

He’ll likely insist on the stuff he likes rather than asking what you want.

It could be small stuff like where to eat, which movie to watch, or if you prefer the window or aisle seat on the plane.

It could also be things on a larger scale, like deciding where the relationship’s headed.

Fickle (a.k.a. Fake) love doesn’t really do well with making room for compromise, and couples are likely to split over this.

 

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True Love Sign #6: Your guy has “tunnel vision”

 

You can tell a guy’s in love with you if he’s trying to imply that you’re “different” from other women.

He’ll make you feel special - it’s as if you’re the only one that exists in his world.

Men interested in a serious, committed relationship are looking for that one girl who stands above the rest.

And if he thinks you’re The One, he WILL drop some hints to let you know.

Chances are he’ll be indirect about it because men often have trouble expressing themselves emotionally.

Feelings aren’t as familiar territory to them as it is for women (although there are exceptions of course).

That’s why it’s a bit of a challenge for him to untangle something as complex as LOVE.

So he’ll try to let you know by saying something along the lines of “You’re not like other women” or “I’ve never met anyone like you.”

Someone who doesn’t feel as strongly for you won’t ever approach this topic.

That’s because he’s not as focused - or I might even say “obsessed” – with you.

 

True Love Sign #7: He’s always there for you

 

Most women have a little trouble figuring this one out.

But if you pay attention to his actions, there may be clues that he’s not just in it for the physical intimacy.

If he’s constantly doing big AND small stuff for you, it’s his way of letting you know about this true feelings.

A lot of guys are more of doers than tellers when it comes to love.

Also, chances are it’s the real deal if he’s taking note of the small details about you and putting them to good use later on.

Maybe he knows how much you’re into badly made horror movies, for instance.

Then he’ll surprise you with a couple of tickets for a midnight screening of that cult classic you were telling him about the other week.

All this means your happiness is important to him…

…and any guy worth being with doesn’t feel 100% like a man if he’s not doing enough to take care of you.

A guy who doesn’t care, won’t bother remembering those vital pieces of information. And he won’t lift a finger to make you happy unless it benefits him in some way.

True Love Sign #8: He’s part of your life – and not just the fun parts

Another way to tell he’s in love with you if he’s going out of his way to be part of your world.

You might notice him trying to find out what you love doing, then tag along even though he’s not into it himself.

He’ll also be more than happy to meet the other people in your life because he wants to know you better.

Being with your friends and seeing you in action helps him understand what makes you tick.

A guy who’s only interested in doing the deed won’t be interested at all in seeing this other side of you.

It doesn’t serve him in any way, and he doesn’t need to take the relationship past sleeping with you.

Fake love crumbles when things get tough. He won’t muster the energy to get to know your passions and interests, and doesn’t care about the people important to you.

Doing this takes time and effort. Whether or not he goes through this trouble is the real yardstick of his feelings for you.

If he’s willing to make sacrifices that he could have very well avoided…

…and he doesn’t stop trying even when things aren’t always great between you…

…then you’d better hold on to him tight.

This points to the fact that he’s tenacious in the face of adversity, which is more than I can say for the Wham-Bam-Thank-You-Ma’am kind of guys out there.

Whether you’ve just been seeing a guy, or you’ve known him for a long time, it’s never a good sign if it just seems like he’s phoning it in.

Maybe he used to show the signs that he’s got a solid commitment to you, but now you’re not so sure about your future with him.

It’s often hard to pinpoint exactly why men pull away all of a sudden.

But you don’t have to panic if your relationship’s going through this phase. There is a way to overcome the wall that men put up when they don’t feel that fire anymore.

What you need to do is understand how men think and get a good grasp of what makes them leave. 

This video explains how to get around the problem of his emotional unavailability, and to make sure he doesn’t ever think of leaving. 

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8 Differences Between True Love and Fake Love

The #1 Texting Mistake Women Make

Texting Mistakes

Texting Mistakes - You see, men are like puppy dogs:

They're easily distracted by anything new...

      By shiny objects...

            And yes, sometimes by other women.

And if your messages don't grab his attention...

And force him to think about you when you're not around...

He'll easily get pulled aside by something else...

And he'll never develop those feelings of infatuation and obsession that make him desperate to hear from you...

To be around you...

And ultimately to lock you down.

Fortunately, my friend Amy North has come up with a text that guarantees the man you send it to won't be able to stop thinking about you.

Learn about this seemingly magical text here

When you send it to a guy...

You'll pop into his head again and again throughout his day...

He won't be able to shake you from his mind...

And after he texts you back...

He'll check his phone compulsively hoping to hear back from you.

This powerful text is quite clever...

And if you're anything like me, you'll kick yourself for not thinking of it yourself:

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Texting Mistakes